by Janna
Qualman
It was
said that we Ermas should, for this month, try something new. Step outside the
box. Spread our funny little wings and then write about it. I accepted the
challenge, and when pondering the full plethora of possibilities, one idea kept
resurfacing: Internet dating.
What does
"Internet dating" mean? I have no idea. But here's where I went with
it, and why.
I was
many years married, now some time divorced. I am largely content, because I have
me and I have my two kids, a faboo family and network of friends, and some
pretty rockin' work that keeps me busy. But then there are the moments when
work is done, my kids are with their dad, when I am alone and don't entertain
me enough. That leaves a little niggle of disappointment. Because I'm missing
someone (of the opposite sex, yo) to connect with. You know?
Since I'm
not typically the kind to go out in public where there are, like, people, and
since I thrive on the interwebs, it made perfect sense for me to try the
"romantic social networking site" sort of avenue. (It's not lame. It
is not lame.) And what was the next step but to use my word skills and rely on
my (cough) virtual charm to set up a profile. Which I did late one night when
my brain was wired, my confidence was up, and all was right with the world.
I told
myself, This doesn't have to be anything serious. Just a casual float in the
sea, to see what kinds of fish happen to be around. Yeah?
So I did
what all the lonely girls do. I listed the traits I look for. I talked about
me, modestly. I uploaded one of my favorites pictures. I straight-up
represented, and got a little more excited with each keystroke.
Then I
neared the end of my effort, and up popped a window that said, “Your profile is
being processed and will go LIVE within 24 hours.” Which made me panic, and in
two seconds flat I deactivated the account.
So do I
get credit for trying to try something new?
Janna Qualman juggles a lot of hats these days, which
(sadly) don’t include that of a popular Internet dater.
LOL You did good! And yes it counts for trying--I would have been just as nervous:))
ReplyDeleteLol, ok, I have to admit that this made me laugh! Only because I can picture this whole scenario...you confidently making your profile (which I bet was awesome, by the way) and then in a matter of seconds having a major freak out and running from the whole thing. If it makes you feel any better, I had all those same thoughts, and thought about canceling my profile almost everday (no exaggeration). But, the payoff for me standing my ground and having faith was HUGE! You can do it, girl! Put your line back out there and snag a good one!
ReplyDeleteDown here in Texas we like to say "Go big or go home". To think outta the box, first you gotta scale those cardboard walls! I say hit restart, type it all back in, and go ahead on. What's the worst that can happen...you meet a guy?
ReplyDeleteI will give an E for effort.
Deb
Lol! Yep, baby steps count!
ReplyDeleteI can completely relate. When I signed up for online dating the first time, the word ringing through my brain (even worse then your 'It's not lame') started with a PA and ended with THETIC.
However, you might come to the same conclusion that I did: What's the worst that could happen? Meeting some new people (even if a few of them are weird),getting some free dinners, and maybe even kissing a few frogs. What's the best that could happen? Oh, I don't know...meeting the man of your dreams and living happily ever after? I think it's worth the risk!
Ha, ha...baby steps I guess. There's always tomorrow and at least you still have that great picture to upload again. Kudos to you for trying. ;-)
ReplyDelete~FringeGirl
Thanks for the comments! And the encouragement. :)
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